Human Chemistry and Our Relationship with Others
Published by Your in a crowded room and you see another person that catches your eye. You smile, you move toward each other. Introductions are made and in the first few minutes of conversation and you either click or you wish you had never waked across the room. That is human chemistry. Read more…
HUMAN CHEMISTRY and Our RELATIONSHIP with Others
Human chemistry is what I call the kindred spirit connection. Without human chemistry there is no way to build a healthy relationship. You have no common bonding of the mind or soul. Chemistry solidifies the relationship and it has little to nothing to do with physical desire or lust. Physical desire and lust are no more than raw animal instinct. It is the chemistry between two people that causes them to be attracted to each other in the first place, those things in our personality, our character that attracts and complements each other. No matter how physically attractive, sexy, you may be, a jerk is still a jerk. If it swims like a duck, waddles like a duck and quacks like a duck; it is probably a duck and you can bet your next paycheck on it.
Human chemistry is the foundation that makes a relationship solid, like a rock, even when you have your differences and no two people will always agree all of the time on everything. If the chemistry isn’t there you are not going to relate. It is chemistry that keeps a relationship in balance. It is chemistry that gives us that positive or negative reaction to a person in a crowded room, on an empty street or on the school playground. It is what tells you to stay or to run.
You can’t mix oil and water and have them blend. It may blend for a little while, under pressure, but they will eventually separate, each unto itself and each will flow its own separate way. Both have valuable qualities but the chemistry is not there to form a bond and cause them to truly blend and be as one. Without the right chemistry you cannot have the bond that will make a lasting relationship with another person. No matter how physically attractive another person may appear, if the chemistry isn’t there you will never develop a bond of true friendship and if you cannot be true friends you can never be truly in love.
That human chemical reaction to another person, and we are not just talking about animal attraction, raging hormones here; is instead, an attraction based on common beliefs and interest as well as the physical attraction, their appearance and body language, how they speak and their manners, how they respond to others in the same environment, among other character traits.
It is chemistry that causes you to know whether to approach or move away; whether there is compatibility or danger lurking below the surface. It is that sixth sense that comes into play when you meet someone. It is chemistry that draws you together like a magnet and makes you click, causes you to see each other as kindred spirits. You like each other, have common ground, or you don’t. It is what makes you comfortable around the other person or causes you to keep your distance.
It is that kindred spirit connection that will put substance in a relationship and make it work. It is this kindred spirit thing that makes it possible for two people to look beyond personal differences and see the whole person, not just the surface stuff. It is what causes the two of you to compliment each other’s personality traits and give the relationship balance.
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On February 18, 2012 at 9:41 pm
The whole subject of human communication and attraction is a fascinating one. I love the way you put pen to paper on this one, making the fascinating even mORE fascinating. Thanks, A bromley
On February 18, 2012 at 11:38 pm
Thanks
On February 18, 2012 at 11:40 pm
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On February 19, 2012 at 2:38 am
My wife and I met on the Internet. We e-mailed for a while, then talked on the phone for a while before we decided to meet face to face. We went to the Zoo. She has a severe disability that affects her whole body and her speech. As I stated in one of my poems about her, she shakes rattles and drools. She rides in a large, battery powered wheel chair. The first thing I noticed about her that left a great impression is how she handled children. She does not always look pleasant because her face sometimes contorts when facial muscles randomly contract. In a crowd she has to move very carefully so not to injure anyone. She sits still until a path is made for her to drive through. Sometimes while watching some animals people would bump into her chair. If it was a child they could become frightened when they saw her. She would very calmly and reassuringly speak to them, just saying, “Hi, there”. The way she did it melted away their fear and they almost always would speak to her. I was amazed at how she could allay their fear. I sometimes frighten kids because I am very tall and I have practiced this same tactic to allay a child’s fear of me stature. She has perfected it to an art form. Her way of connecting with strangers in this way helped to cement our own relationship.
On February 19, 2012 at 10:22 am
Fascinating topic. It is so important to understand this dynamic and to listen to our spirit rather than to our body when making decisions about relationships. Great article.
On February 21, 2012 at 10:10 am
Very interesting read.
On February 24, 2012 at 9:29 pm
It was far too vague.