What is The Sex Drive?
The sex drive is powerful but it can and should be controlled. We do not have to give in to our sexual desires. We can think before we act. We can consider the consequences. We can decide what we will or will not because we are human beings with dignity and self-control.
What is the Sex Drive?
By Mr. Ghaz, August 29, 2009
What is the Sex Drive?
Sexual Attraction is not Real Love
As a young person grows into adulthood, he or she becomes aware of a powerful new force in the body. This powerful new force is the sex drive. There is nothing evil or sinful about the sex drive – that’s the way we are made. But the sex drive can and should be controlled.
There are Differences
Guys and girls are not only different in their physical makeup, but they are different in their physical makeup, but they are different in the way they respond to their sexuality.
There is difference in the way guys and girls are stimulated sexually. Girls are stimulated primarily by touch. Guys are stimulated primary by what they see. Guys are aroused quickly and they have strong sexual desires. Girls are aroused more slowly. This is their protection from runaway situation.
Girls do not think about sex in the same way that guys do. Girls think more or romantic love – someone to hold them close and give them warmth, affection and security. The average girl wouldn’t think of having sex with a guy unless she felt that she loved him and he loved her.
When guys think about girls, they tend to think more in terms of sex, but their sexual desire, in itself, is NOT an evidence of real love. A girl may not be able to enjoy sex with a guy she doesn’t really love, but a guy can enjoy sex with a girl he doesn’t even like.
Two Mistakes about Sex
We can make two mistakes concerning sex. Mistake #1 is thinking that sex is nothing but a physical act to be enjoyed with whomever we please and whenever we please.
This is wrong because sex is not just a physical act. In sexual intercourse, two people become one. This is such an intimate experience that it will have a lasting effect upon you. Anyone who takes this lightly is simply ignorant of the way we are made.
Mistake #2 is thinking that the physical act of sex is everything. Movies and TV give the impression that sex is the most important thing in life – that it is the only way to express love.
This is likewise false. The physical act of sex itself apart from love and commitment is little more than “gymnastics with a charge at the end.” Young people call it “going all the way,” but it isn’t one-tenth of the way! It’s no wonder that many teens say, “What’s so great about sex? I tried it and it was no big deal.”
The reason it was “no big deal” is that it was simply sex without love and commitment which are vital to a loving relationship. Any dog or cat can have sex, but a loving relationship is something else. Within marriage, where there is real love, security and commitment, it is wife to express their love for each other to the fullest. That really is “going all the way!”
The Sex Drive Can Be Controlled
The desire for sex is a drive which we share with animals, but there is a big difference in the way we respond to it. When animals are in heat (fertile), the sex drive is irresistible. They have no choice but to mate.
We humans can think before we act. We do not have to give in to our sexual drive. We can consider the consequences. We can think about the future, and we can decide what we will and will not do.
Sex is Never an Emergency
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Sometimes a guy will become so aroused by caressing and other forms of stimulation that he will tell his girl, “We’ve gone this far; you’ve just got to let me!” This sounds as though some terrible thing will happen to him if she does not give in, but this is not true. He will not suffer any ill effects whatsoever.
Without a doubt, sex is important, but it is not absolutely essential to the enjoyment of life. Many people, for one reason or another, go through their entire lives without sexual intercourse and still have full, happy lives.
Remember, sex is never an emergency. It is better to have frustrated sexual desires than regrets and long-term, undesirable consequences.
To Summarize
The sex drive is powerful but it can and should be controlled. We do not have to give in to our sexual desires. We can think before we act. We can consider the consequences. We can decide what we will or will not because we are human beings with dignity and self-control, not animals.
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20 Responses to “What is The Sex Drive?”
On August 30, 2009 at 4:31 am
Great info!
On August 30, 2009 at 6:47 am
A detailed and well presented article. You explain everything so well.
Christine
On August 30, 2009 at 7:41 am
Great article as always. very interesting piece. Thank you
On August 30, 2009 at 9:29 am
Fab info great pic’s and i have learnd somthing thank you.
On August 30, 2009 at 9:34 am
As always, a well written and informative piece.
On August 30, 2009 at 9:54 am
Although I disagree with the male, female differences part, especially in today’s society, I do agree with the information on restraint. I like, “Sex is never an emergency”.
On August 30, 2009 at 10:49 am
A very interesting article.
On August 30, 2009 at 10:53 am
Yes, the sex drive can be controlled. Most people today don’t seem to realize that. Yoga and Taoism help.
On August 30, 2009 at 12:49 pm
This is very sagely article Mr Ghaz.
On August 30, 2009 at 1:24 pm
This is an excellent article. Young adults need to read this. Great advice.
Excellent article.
On August 30, 2009 at 5:12 pm
great artical, well put, some guys might want to disagree with you they think if they don’t get release they will blow up or something hee hee, But yes young adults NEED to read this thanks for sharing
On August 30, 2009 at 7:26 pm
Interesting topic and well written article.
On August 30, 2009 at 9:03 pm
I totally agree with you. We have self control endowed in our being but the microwave generation we live in wants everything now regardless of the consequences.
On August 31, 2009 at 12:32 am
Well said. Good post!
On August 31, 2009 at 1:59 am
Very interesting and good advise.
On August 31, 2009 at 2:20 am
Excellent information presented in a clear and understandable manner. Well done.
Monica.
On August 31, 2009 at 11:50 am
Well-presented piece. Well done, my friend. Have my liked it.
On August 31, 2009 at 1:26 pm
another great article i like the title sex is never an emergency
On August 31, 2009 at 9:15 pm
Very well presented, very appropriate for todays teens–or for anyone. I like the idea that commitment is the actual “going all the way.”
On September 8, 2009 at 8:01 pm
sex for men is simple ejaculation
for women it is emotional occupation
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