Its Fated or Is it? Node Contacts in Synastry Part one.
Node conjunct to personal planets are considered to be very significant in synastry by most astrologers. The closer the orb, the stronger the aspect. The maximum orb to be used is 3 degrees. But Are They All They Are Cracked Up To Be? Some of the Node aspects which I have seen in my life and my experience of them are detailed below.
Mars conjunct South Node
From what I have read, this aspect does not augur very well for the budding relationship. Some people on an astrology thread report attraction for the Martian from the South Node person. This can be a sign of a violent relationship in the past, or one which was ended due to the death of one person. All South Node connections in synastry show a past life link. The Martian may be a soldier the South Node person knew in a past life. One or the other person may outgrow the other once the lessons which needed to be learned have been assimilated.
I know a person whose Mars conjuncts my South Node (1 degree)
There is definitely that comfort, that vague feeling of having known the person in the past. I trusted him implicitly (and still do) even if I may not have any evidence to prove it. But I did reach an emotional decision to separate myself when I realized that he did not return my feelings. Also, I perceived a very nebulous aura of violence and aggression around him. I reacted fearfully to him. In my mind, he is a violent person, despite having any evidence for this. Perhaps it was because he had a fire sign sun. But more probably it was because of this aspect between his Mars and my South Node, which no doubt affected me deeply, but not in a good way.
He wanted to stay friends, but I wanted more. So I thought it would be better for both of us to move on. We don’t have any friends in common to bolster or rekindle our connection. I have feelings for this person currently, but I believe it’s due to the following aspect which I also share with him instead of the above one (although its weaker by degree)
Moon conjunct North Node
According to cafeastrology, the Moon person feels protective towards the North Node person and provides emotional support. There is a strong theme of nurturing, mothering and caring in the relationship between the two. The North Node person may feel some nervousness as he feels (correctly) that the relationship is fated. Even if the two are separated, they can meet after many years have passed and still feel just as close to each other as they previously were. They can pick up the connection just where they left off. When one of the persons is a female, the connection is stronger.
Now generally Node aspects are considered valid only if they are close- 2 or 3 degrees is the maximum orb permitted to be used, depending on astrologers. This is because Node stays in a sign for a year and a half. But my experience has been different. My Moon is conjunct his North Node by a wide 6 degrees. And yet I have experienced its effects very strongly, more than the closer aspect of one degree from his Mars to my South Node. I have no other aspects I don’t have his birth time so I don’t know his Moon sign. But the nurturing is from my side so that is probably irrelevant.
What could be the reason for this, beyond the fact that one of us (the moon person i.e. me) is a female?
Perhaps the aspect gained strength because my Moon is exalted in Taurus and placed in the fourth house. Or perhaps because I am a maternal person in general! (My Mercury is in Cancer and my birth number is two, ruled by Moon)
According to cafeastrology, a couple with this aspect who separated for some reason can pick up the connection just where they left off. This most definitely feels true to my experience. And that is why I propose that the rule of using a 2 or 3 degree maximum orb may not hold true if there is a connection to one of the luminaries (Sun or Moon) AND one of the person represents the luminary in the aspect. For example, a man with his Sun conjunct another person’s North Node or a woman’s Moon conjunct the other’s North Node. The Sun represents the masculine principle and the Moon represents the feminine aspect.